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Archive for June 30th, 2009

The Importance of Masterminding

Posted by mallton on June 30th, 2009

“No two minds ever come together without, thereby, creating a third, invisible, intangible force that may be likened to a third mind.” The driving force and the ninth step toward riches in Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich is the Power of the Mastermind. We gain power through the “Master Mind,” which he defines as “Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people for the attainment of a definite purpose.”

If we ponder a challenge on our own, we access our personal experience and knowledge. Adding another mind to solve the challenge adds their personal experience and knowledge. The accumulated experience and knowledge of two or more people grows the solutions to your challenges exponentially.

Parents know that who their children “hang out” with has a huge influence on their children’s decisions and choices. Why would that change when we become adults? Whom we surround ourselves with impacts us in all areas, financially, mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally.

Have you ever heard that a person’s income is the average of his or her five closest friends? What is the average for your five closest friends? How close is that to your income? I’m not sure who are the five closest friends to Oprah, Trump, or Bill Gates, but it would be safe to say that they surround themselves with people who help take them to the next level. Are the people you are choosing to spend your time with uplifting you? Are you uplifting to them? Hill endorses this: “We take on the nature and the habits and the power of thought of those with whom we associate in a spirit of sympathy and harmony.”

We become like the people we associate with. Therefore, the first question to ask is, “Who do I want to become?” If you don’t know who you want to be, what you want to do, and what you want to have, how can you know who to associate with?

For example, let’s say you answer that the two things you want most are better health and more money. Next, look at your “inner circle” of the five closest friends/associates. In the physical arena, are these people thinking healthy thoughts, speaking healthy words, and doing healthy activities? If not, find another group who will help you gain the health you desire.

The same process applies to money. If your closest influences are lack-minded, poverty thinking victims who have no goals because they believe that other factors than their own thinking determines their financial situation, run as fast as you can away from these vultures. They will eat you alive! Find sources of people who are prosperity minded and take personal responsibility for their lives, especially their financial situation.

Masterminding is the Law of Attraction in action. As you become clearer on your goals and aspirations, you will notice people and other influences, particularly, TV and newspapers, and begin to eliminate those from your life. If someone very close to you, such as a parent or spouse, is toxic, it may be difficult to ignore his or her influence. However, choosing to surround yourself with the group that will take you where you want to go makes it easier to stop listening to those negative beliefs and replace them with ones that will help you on your path.

Becoming consciously aware is a very important first step. You have the power of choice. You can choose which people, books, TV shows and thoughts you allow in your life. When you do, you will take your life to a much higher level and start accomplishing your goals and dreams.

Marilyn Schwader and Linda Schwader are successful entrepreneurs with a passion for helping people remove their daily struggle for money so that they can focus on the change they want to be in the world. If you are ready to start your own home based business, if you have drive, focus, integrity, and ambition, and aren’t content to wait and see what life gives you, but are ready to create your own business, then we encourage you to contact us.

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How to Heal Depression

Posted by mallton on June 30th, 2009

Are you tired of feeling depressed? Would you like to find out the causes of this draining emotion so that you can heal yourself? Early in my practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I learned some very interesting aspects of this debilitating emotion that robs us of our health and happiness.

To begin with, I discovered from my clients that depression is anger turned inward. Anger is a secondary emotion. Under this feeling is fear, hurt, and/or powerlessness. I also learned that there are only two basic emotions and they are fear and love. All other emotions are either fear-based or love-based. It is easy to tell the difference. Fear constricts our bodies and does not feel good. In fact, it is the cause of stress and anxiety. Love expands our bodies and feels great.

Therefore, the cause of emotional depression (there are also medical causes) is basically fear. However, that is not the bottom line. To go deeper, I discovered that our fears are caused by our negative decisions that are made from our negative experiences. My goal in the process I developed, HART, which stands for Holistic And Rapid Transformation, is to help clients identify their fear-based experiences and thoughts and to change them to positive ones, so that they can feel good.

For over 28 years, I have had tremendous success with this process, because it quickly gets to the causes of depression and any other problems. No matter what the issues were for the clients, I always looked for the negative decisions that caused them to live in fear and have low self-esteem.

For example, John, a forty-three-year-old successful lawyer, was referred to me by his friend. All of John’s money could not stop him from suffering from depression. The emotionally struggling man could not seem to grasp the happiness he desired. The lawyer had problems with relationships, family members and friends. Nothing seemed to make him happy. He was miserable.

As I do with all clients, I looked for the negative thoughts that were tormenting him. With the HART process, they were easy to find. We are unique, and our problems are not. John made many common negative decisions based on his painful childhood. His mother was emotionally unavailable, and his Dad was an alcoholic.

From the verbal and physical abuse and lack of love and support, John decided that he was bad, not good enough, unimportant, unlovable, unworthy, and unattractive. All of these beliefs were not true, but F.E.A.R is False Evidence Appearing Real.

Typical of children, little John took responsibility for all the pain in his family, and he felt helpless and hopeless to help them. All this hurt his self-esteem. Even though John was an adult living on his own for many years, he, like all of us, was still being affected by his past.

Once John was able to release those fear-based thoughts and change them to positive ones, his self-esteem improved. He smiled as he said, “Helene I feel better and more hopeful.” I taught John how to identify his depression, anger, fears, and negative beliefs, and how to release them constructively with the HART process. I reminded him that he was okay, no matter what people said or did. I helped him realize that he had the power to attract what he wanted with his new positive beliefs (The Law of Attraction).

Six months later, I received a phone call from John. He happily told me that he felt good, and he had a loving relationship with a wonderful woman. “Helene, when something negative happens, I no longer take responsibility for it. It feels so good not to be depressed.”

If you suffer from depression, you can also help yourself overcome that debilitating emotion. Even if you are taking medication, it is still important to deal with the emotional causes by releasing your negative thoughts and changing them to positive ones. When you raise your self-esteem, you can also raise your head up high and say, “I am depressed no more!”

copyright 2009 by Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, LMFT, Licensed Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, and author of,”All You Need Is HART! Create Love, Joy and Abundance ~NOW!” She offers telephone sessions, a relationship check-up report/questionnaire, books, e-books, CDs, Mp3 audios, plus a free newsletter, “Healing Your Body” Mp3 and “Truths Set You Free” e-booklet. http://www.lovetopeace.com , 1-888-639-6390.

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